Dear Men

Dear Men,
You know what it is...Women aren't any more or less angry than they ever have been. It's just that there's an avenue for being heard now.
They call it the change for a lot of reasons, and it's not just a change in your body, it's a change in the mindset too. Our whole lives are changing with kids moving out, husbands retiring, downsizing, parents dying, and our own health issues.
Women in their 40's and 50's are sick of everybody's shit.
We spent the last 20+ years of our lives taking care of the kids, the house, and everything else. We've eaten the burnt toast and sacrificed everything for the sake of the Family.
Given a choice, most women would choose the same thing all over again, so don't get it twisted.
It's our turn now, and we aren't afraid to claim it. We earned the right to come first in our lives, and yours too.
What we don't need is your retired ass telling us how we can save a dime on the grocery bill. We have spent YEARS researching what specific brands you can get at the lowest price. We understand that not all generics are the same and sometimes, buying brand is the best bet for the money.
You didn't see us showing up where you worked and trying to tell you how to do your job, now did we?
How about you support our dreams now?... just as we supported yours all these years. At least don't get in the way.
Stop coming into our world and trying to change things, just as you want us to stop trying to change you.
You have no problem pitching a hissy fit in the grocery store that we have spent years developing a relationship with, with no understanding as to why that is incredibly rude. It would be the same if we went to your workplace and did the same thing.
And for the love of all that is holy, do not wake us up when we take a nap. I do not care if it's been 6 hours. Feed yourself. You are grown now. We spent the better part of our 20s and 30s not able to sleep for one reason or another, and now we've earned our naps. If you don't want to nap, then find a hobby, go fishing for a couple of hours, or golf, or whatever your little heart desires..go do that and let us sleep. And no, we don't want to monetize our hobbies, because then they become work, and the whole point of having a hobby is defeated.
We love ya, we really do. But the line in the sand is clear and we're calling it boundaries these days and since the dawn of time this power struggle has existed between men and women of a certain age.
And we'll make a deal with ya...if you don't bitch and nag about stuff, neither will we.
Oh yeah, and sorry we dragged you along to all that crap you didn't want to do. We get it now.

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  1. AnonymousAugust 28, 2024 at 10:57 PM

    Hi Kelly, I hope you're doing well. I bookmarked your blog years ago, then I quit blogging altogether. Today I was checking out my bookmarks and was surprised to see you've been writing, as late as January 2024! Anyway, what surprised me even more is that you have a link to my old blog on Blogger that I guess I abandoned, The Lawnfly. I clicked on that link too, and was blown away to read my old post, it's still there. I remember you commenting on it. It's nice to find your blog again, I'll check back on you more often :)

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